Dr. Jase Moussa-Inaty

Silent trauma does not always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like disrupted sleep. An upset stomach. Pulling away from people. Slowly letting yourself go. Dr. Jase Moussa-Inaty describes a set of signals that are easy to explain away individually and revealing when you see them together.

This conversation moves between her professional knowledge and her own experience of grief. As an educational psychologist she can name the mechanisms; as someone who has carried loss, she is unwilling to make them sound tidy. That combination is what gives the episode its weight.

We talk about how the body registers what the mind postpones, and why that is not weakness but sequence. About the social performance that grief requires after the first few weeks, when everyone else's life resumes and yours has not. About the strange administrative tone people take with the bereaved, and how quickly the subject becomes uncomfortable.

We also talk about the decision at the centre of it: choosing to keep living fully while the pain remains. Not resolution, not closure, not a stage model with a finish line. Continuing, with the thing still there.

Her closing thought is the one people repeated most after this episode aired. Be kind. You genuinely do not know what someone is carrying, including the people who smile the most, who are often carrying the heaviest things.